Death of Delhi’s Girl Child : ” A Candle In The Wind “


MUMBAI – MAHARASHTRA – INDIA           DECEMBER 29 , 2012           05.00 P.M.

Woke up today to the sad news of the death of  the unfortunate girl , who got gang raped in Delhi in a moving bus . She battled for her life for few days and finally succumbed to her wounds , physical and mental both .

I became numb . Shame and guilt engulfed me . In our religion we worship 51 SHAKTIPEETHAS , temples of goddess Durga , yet this happened . In our country even rivers and animals are called MATA , yet this happened . In our literature women are eulogized , yet this happened . Eons ago Manusmriti eulogized women as :

यत्र नार्यस्तु पूज्यन्ते , रमन्ते तत्र देवताः ,

यत्रैतास्तु न पूज्यन्ते , सर्वास्तत्रा  क्रिया अफलाः ।।

[ That house becomes abode of Gods , where women are worshipped . Everything fails in the place , where they get insulted . ]

Jay Shankar Prasad , a Hindi poet , also wrote about women in his epic book ” Kamayani ” :

नारी तुम केवल श्रद्धा हो , विश्वास रजत नग पगतल में ,

पीयूष स्रोत सी बहा करो , जीवन के  सुन्दर समतल में ।।

English: Durga puja at Burdwan

Durga puja at Burdwan (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

But it all seems in vain . Women are , in their daily life , subjected to rape , insult , verbal abuse and teasing . Their whole existence is at stake at their working places . In public transport they have to face leery looks of lecherous men .Voyeurism is prevalent in our culture and we do take voyeuristic pleasure while gaping at women . We eulogize women as Goddesses but the reality is pathetic .

English: Beggar Girl at one of New Delhi's bus...

Beggar Girl at one of New Delhi’s busy Metro Rail Stations. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

It is unfortunate . Whatever happened was very unfortunate . But more unfortunate was the behaviour of our ruling oligarchs . Sheila Dikshit , the woman Chief Minister of Delhi , looked helplessly . Sonia Gandhi , the Chairperson of UPA and President of Congress made a pretence of meeting protesters . It is now alleged that they were members of NSUI , the student wing of Indian National Congress . Youth icon Rahul Gandhi is maintaining stoic silence . He does some drama of going to villages and eating and sleeping in the houses of Harijans whenever elections are round the corner . But a 23 old girl’s plight couldn’t move him . Most unfortunate behaviour came from Sushil Kumar Shinde , the Home Minister . He is a Dalit but was unable to empathise with the other weaker section , the hapless girl . President Pranab Mukherjee’s son is another nut case . His very unfortunate remark about some ”  …..dented and painted ……. women coming for few second’s fame ” is deplorable . Sanjay Nirupam also came to chip in . His remarks against Smriti Irani shows his male chauvinism .

Chief Minister of Delhi

Sheila Dikshit , Chief Minister of Delhi (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

English: Sonia Gandhi, Indian politician, pres...

Sonia Gandhi, president of the Indian National Congress (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

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Rahul Gandhi . (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

English: Pranab Mukherjee, Indian politician, ...

Pranab Mukherjee, current President of India (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

English: Sanjay Nirupam

Sanjay Nirupam , Congress MP (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Though the girl wanted to live , she is now dead . The ruling oligarchy is trying every trick in the book to save their skin . Delhi has become a war zone . India Gate is beyond reach of common people . Members of Congress are shedding copious tears . But everyone knows that these male chauvinist are just trying to gain time . Public memory is short and elections are still 2 years away . These morons know that by the time next general election is announced , this hapless girl child will be a forgotten news .

Today , when I was reading all the comments about this girl , I suddenly remembered Elton John’s song ” A Candle In The Wind ” . He had originally made it in 1973 for Marilyn Monroe  . He re – wrote the song in 1997 for Princess Diana . I am giving the original version . Words are still relevant , even though 39 years have passed and it was written for another person and in totally different circumstances :

Goodbye Norma Jean
Though I never knew you at all
You had the grace to hold yourself
While those around you crawled
They crawled out of the woodwork
And they whispered into your brain
They set you on the treadmill
And they made you change your name
And it seems to me you lived your life
Like a candle in the wind
Never knowing who to cling to
When the rain set in
And I would have liked to have known you
But I was just a kid
Your candle burned out long before
Your legend ever did
Loneliness was tough
The toughest role you ever played
Hollywood created a superstar
And pain was the price you paid
Even when you died
Oh the press still hounded you
All the papers had to say
Was that Marilyn was found in the nude
Goodbye Norma Jean
Though I never knew you at all
You had the grace to hold yourself
While those around you crawled
Goodbye Norma Jean
From the young man in the 22nd row
Who sees you as something more than sexual
More than just our Marilyn Monroe
These ominous words still haunt you . They are still relevant . I end my blog with agony , pain and head bowed in shame .
Good bye , young one ! You were destiny’s unfortunate child …….
And it seems to me , you lived your life
Like a candle in the wind
Never knowing who to cling to
When the rain set in

I have nothing more to say . If you stand for a girl child , I know what you can face . Whole system will gang up against you . Male chauvinist , their accomplices and their pathetic factotum , sycophants and fawning parasites will try to muzzle your voice . And voyeuristic India will only look with glee and sadistic pleasure . None will come forward to help . It will become a lonely , personal fight , an uneven , unequal battle .

But without caring for male chauvinist , I will try to inculcate these views of mine among the students of my acting school ,  Vidur’s Kreating Charakters . So that , if needs be , they could be of some help to a girl child and just won’t be a moot spectator .




I Denounce Sanjay Nirupam’s Comment





I came to know about Sanjay Nirupam‘s comment about Smriti Irani through twitter . All of sudden there were outrage against Sanjay Nirupam and he started trending for few days .

English: Sanjay Nirupam

Sanjay Nirupam (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

He was originally with Shiv Sena . Then he left the Sena and joined Congress , the Indian National Congress . I don’t think it is change of heart . He definitely joined Congress for greener pastures .

English: Smriti Irani at BIG Awards Jury Press...

Smriti Irani at BIG Awards Jury Press Meet. Photo: FilmiTadka (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Smriti Irani is a member of BJP , the Bharatiya Janata Party . She is a popular actress of television and essayed role of Tulsi Virani in Ekta Kapoor‘s mega serial ” Kyonki ….. Saas Bhi Kabhi Bahu Thi ” .

Flag of the Indian National Congress

Flag of the Indian National Congress (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Flag of the Bharatiya Janata Party (BJP), a na...

Flag of the Bharatiya Janata Party (BJP) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Sanjay Nirupam and his other friends of Congress were definitely frustrated on the day when Gujarat election results were declared . Huge electoral gains for Narendra Modi made them a frustrated lot . So when both ; Sanjay Nirupam and Smriti Irani were participating in a debate on a popular news channel , Sanjya Nirupam commented , ” Aap Bhi To Paise Ke Liye TV Par Thumke Lagati Theen ……….. ” . This uncalled for slur expectedly drew widespread public outcry .

Instead of taking defeat gracefully and instead of showing sympathy for Delhi Rape Victim , Congress leaders like Sanjay Nirupam showed his petty mind and deep-rooted prejudices against female members of the society .

Narendra Modi has been elected by the public . There is no need for not accepting this verdict . If BJP can gracefully accept defeat in Himachal Pradesh , then why can’t Congress in Gujarat ?

And I or any conscientious citizen of India will say that rape is a slap on the face of humanity. So what if it happened in a Congress ruled Delhi ? Every leader of Congress should condemn this barbarous act .

But leaders like Sanjay Nirupam of Indian National Congress are giving went to his frustration and expressed their inner most feelings towards women on National television .

But what can you expect from the Congress , the Indian National Congress ? Here are some glaring examples :

1 – 80 plus Narayan Dutt Tiwari [ Ex Chief Minister of UP and Uttarakhand , Ex Union Minister holding very important portfolios and the then Governor of Andhra Pradesh ] , was allegedly indulging in sexual escapades in the Raj Bhawan of Hyderabad . You can find some videos of this orgy on YouTube .

2 – A middle – aged Abhishek Manu Sanghvi [ Supreme Court lawyer and spokesperson of Congress ] was allegedly seeking favour from another fellow female lawyer for making her a judge . Again CD is easily available and it can be viewed on YouTube .

3 – Paras Nath Maderna’s case is too recent and widely reported in the newspapers . So no need to say anything about it .

So Sanjay Nirupam is doing nothing new or unique . He , in fact , was following footsteps of his other more famous and illustrious leaders . Narayan Dutt Tiwari , Abhishek Many Sanghvi and Paras Nath Maderna are the flag – bearers of Congress , the Indian National Congress .

But irrespective of Congress culture , I condemn Sanjay Nirupam for his comment . You should be ashamed Mr. Nirupam .

At least you can say sorry even now .

I am sorry and saddened that film fraternity is maintaining stoic silence on the insult of one of its fellow member .


But I am not going to be silent . I denounce Sanjay Nirupam’s comment and seek an unconditional apology from him . I don’t want to involve my students and staff of my acting institute Vidur’s Kreating Charakters  in this . Because these days you could be arrested for expressing your feelings on internet .

I am posting this blog in my personal capacity and am ready to face the consequences . Mr. Sanjay Nirupam , I denounce you in no uncertain term .



Vidur’s Telly Tales – 7 : Bigg Boss Connection [ A ]

MUMBAI – MAHARASHTRA – INDIA             OCTOBER 04. 2011                     10.30 P.M.

On October 02 , 2011 , when I was watching the 5th season of  Bigg Boss ” , I realized that the show has become enormously big and has now totally metamorphosed into a very important show of Indian telivision.

When it started in November 03 , 2006 , it was not so big indeed. But slowly it grew and now it is one of the most eagerly awaited shows of Indian television.

This reality TV programme follows the ” Bigg Brother “ format of the Netherlands , developed by Endemol. It is a highly popular reality TV show in many countries of the world.

Locations of different versions of " Big Brother "
Locations of different versions of ” Big Brother “

In India it is known as ” Bigg Boss “ and as I have stated earlier , it was started in November 2006.

Bigg Boss [ Season - 1 ]
Bigg Boss Season – 1

Bigg Boss – Season – 1


The first season started on November 03 , 2006 and it ended on January 26 , 2007. Duration of the show was 86 days and Mr. Arshad Warsi was the host of the show and it was aired on Sony Entertainment Television. There were 15 participants and their names are : Rahul Roy , Carol Gracias , Ravi Kissen , Rakhi Sawant , Amit Sadh , Roopali Ganguli , Baba Sehgal , Ragini Shetty , Deepak Tijori , Anupama Verma , Aryan Vaid , Kashmira Shah , Deepak Parashar , Bobby Darling and Salil Ankola .

Rahul Roy was the winner and Carol Gracias was the runner – up .

In this season there were 2 participants , who are my students . They are ; Amit Sadh and Ragini Shetty.

Bigg Boss [Season -2]
Bigg Boss Season – 2

Bigg Boss – Season – 2


A much awaited Season  2 of ” Bigg Boss “ started on August 17 , 2008 and it ended on November 22 , 2008 . It lasted for 98 days and it’s host was Ms. Shilpa Shetty. There was one difference ; in stead of Sony Entertainment Television , this time it came on Colors TV . This season , like the first one , also had 15 participants and their names are : Ahsaan Qureshi , Alina Wadiwala , Ashutosh Kaushik , Debojit Saha , Diana Hayden , Jade Goody , Ketki Dave , Monica Bedi , Payal Rohatgi , Rahul Mahajan , Raja Choudhary , Rakhi Vijan , Sambhavana Seth , Sanjay Nirupam and Zulfi Syed .

Ashutosh Kaushik was the winner and Raja Choudhary was the runner – up .

In this season there were 2 participants , who are my students . They are ; Monica Bedi and Zulfi Syed .

Bigg Boss [ Season - 3 ]
Bigg Boss Season – 3
Bigg Boss – Season – 3 
Bigg Boss Season 3 became really big. Some well known personalities as participants and Mr. Amitabh Bachchan as host made it a one of the biggest reality game show in the television history of  India. It started on October 04 , 2009 and ended on December 26 , 2009. Like it’s 1st season , it lasted for 84 days and like the second season it came on Colors TV. The well – known celebrities , who participated in this season , were :  Vindu Dara Singh , Poonam Dhillon , Ismail Darbar , Sherlyn Chopra , Kamal Rashid Khan , Bakhtiyaar M. Irani , Tanaaz B. Irani , Aditi Govitrikar , Jaya Sawant , Shamita Shetty , Claudia Ciesla , Rohit Verma , Raju Shrivastav , Vinod Kambli and Pravesh Rana .
Vindu Dara Singh was the winner and Pravesh Rana was the runner – up .
In this season too there were 2 participants , who are my students ; Aditi Govitrikar and Shamita Shetty .
Bigg Boss Season - 4
Bigg Boss Season – 4

Bigg Boss – Season 4 


This eagerly awaited season of ” Bigg Boss “ came in 2010. It started on October 03 , 2010 and it ended on January 08 , 2011 . It lasted for 96 days . It came on Colors like season 2 and 3 and Mr. Salman Khan was the host. Unlike other 3 seasons , this season had 16 participants .

Names of the participants were ; Aanchal Kumar , Abbas Kazmi , Ashmit Patel , Begum ( Ali Saleem ) , Devender ( Bunty ) , Dolly Bindra , Hrishant Goswami , Khali , Manoj Tiwari , Rahul Bhatt , Sakshi Pradhan , Sameer Soni , Sara Khan , Seema Parihar, Shweta Tiwari and Veen Malik .

Shweta Tiwari was the winner and Khali was the runner – up .

Like earlier season , in this season too , there were 2 participants , who are my students . They are ; Ashmit Patel and Sameer Soni .

Bigg Boss Season - 5
Bigg Boss Season – 5

Bigg Boss – Season – 5 


This 5th season started on Colors on October 02 , 2011 and it will end on January 07 , 2012 . This time there are two hosts ; Mr. Salman Khan and Mr. Sanjay Dutt . Contrary to earlier seasons , this season will have 12 ladies , 1 transgender and only 1 man , Shakti Kapoor.

The names of the 14 participants are ; Shakti Kapoor , Pooja Bedi , Shonali Nagrani , Nihita Biswas , Shraddha Sharma , Mandeep Bevli , Raageshwari , Vida Samadzai , Mahek Chahal , Sonika Kaliraman , Pooja Misrra , Gulabo Sapera , Laxmi Narayan Tripathi and Juhi Parmar .

Names of the winner and runner – up will be known in January .

Unlike earlier seasons , this season has only one student of mine and the name is ; Mahak Chahal .

When I was watching Season 5 , I realized that every season of ” Bigg Boss ” till the 4th season had 2 students per season . Total number of my students in ” Bigg Boss ” comes to 9 .

Bigg Boss – Season – 1 : Amit Sadh / Ragini Shetty

Bigg Boss – Season – 2 : Monica Bedi / Zulfi Syed

Bigg Boss – Season – 3 : Aditi Govitrikar / Shamita Shetty

Bigg Boss – Season – 4 : Ashmit Patel / Samir Soni

Bigg Boss – Season – 5 : Mahek Chahal

I dont have photos with other students. I have just one with Ragini Shetty and I am posting it here.

With Ragini Shetty
With Ragini Shetty



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